You Are Not Alone: Resources for Pregnancy & Infant Loss
- Eden VerBeek
- Feb 20
- 4 min read
Updated: Mar 27
While nothing can take away the ache we carry for our babies — for their futures, and for the loss we have faced — there are resources that have brought me real comfort along the way.
Friend, we are not alone in this.
Finding Comfort in Shared Stories
One of the greatest sources of hope for me has been hearing other people’s stories. When brave men and women share their journeys, something shifts. We feel seen. Understood. Connected. Their words remind us that survival is possible — even when the pain feels unbearable.
Below are a few pregnancy loss resources that have gently supported me in these early weeks of grief.
Books That Offer Hope and Healing
The first book I read after Mason’s loss was The Valley Between: A Mother’s Guide to Finding Purpose and Peace After Pregnancy Loss by Dr. Jenna Ziegler.
This book holds profound stories, Biblical encouragement, and practical guidance. I found myself not wanting it to end because I felt so understood within its pages. Dr. Ziegler offers reflective exercises she calls “Stepping Stones,” which provide tangible ways to engage with your grief and begin healing. If you are looking for a faith-centered approach to navigating pregnancy or infant loss, this is a beautiful place to start.
The second book I read was The Baby Loss Guide: Practical and Compassionate Support with a Day-by-Day Resource to Navigate the Path of Grief by Zoe Clark-Coates.
Zoe is a well-known voice in the baby loss community, and she writes with deep compassion and clarity. This book walks through what you may experience physically and emotionally. It explains common pregnancy complications and gently prepares you for practical realities such as planning a funeral, returning to work, and navigating holidays or special occasions.
What I especially appreciated were the personal stories woven throughout the book — shared from both male and female perspectives — making it a meaningful resource for the entire family.
After experiencing Zoe’s care and wisdom, I began reading another of her books, Saying Goodbye: A Personal Story of Baby Loss and 90 Days of Support to Walk You Through Grief.
In this book, Zoe shares detailed accounts of her own five losses. Her vulnerability builds trust — she writes not just as a guide, but as someone who has walked this road herself. Following her story, she provides 90 short daily readings filled with encouragement and small, practical steps to support you through the earliest days of grief.
Resources for Men
I was also intentional about finding something specifically for Ben. Men are often the overlooked part of the baby loss story. Their grief matters deeply, and they deserve space to process and be supported, too.
Ours: Biblical Comfort for Men Grieving Miscarriage by Eric Schumacher offers guidance rooted in Scripture, along with journaling prompts that allow men to reflect honestly on their thoughts and emotions. I am grateful resources like this exist.
The Healing Power of Journaling
Beyond books, journaling has been one of the most healing practices for me. I began writing out our entire story — from our wedding day to today — holding nothing back. Putting words to my experience has helped me process emotions I didn’t know how to speak aloud. It has felt cathartic and sacred — a way to tell Mason’s story.
I plan to continue using my journal to write letters to him. To say the things I wish I could say here on earth.
Creative Outlets for Healing
As a creative person, I’ve also found comfort in doing something tangible. Scrapbooking has given me a way to actively mother Mason. I printed photos from the day we found out we were pregnant, from the baby shower, and from the day we met him.
Reflecting on the seven beautiful months I carried him — and placing those memories onto pages with photos and handwritten notes — has been deeply meaningful. It reminds me that his life was real. That our joy was real. That he is worthy of being remembered.
Embracing the Journey of Grief
Nothing will completely remove this pain. Nothing will replace the joy of having my son here in my arms. But I believe it matters that we continue gently caring for our mental, emotional, and physical health. Healing is not forgetting. It is learning to carry love and grief together.
These resources have helped me process, feel, and begin taking small steps forward.
Please note: some of the links above are affiliate links. That simply means that if you choose to purchase through them, a small portion may come back to support the work of Named & Known — at no additional cost to you. I only share resources that have personally encouraged me and that I would wholeheartedly recommend to a friend sitting across from me.
As we walk this road, I am continually reminded that the Lord is near to the brokenhearted. He does not rush our grief. He does not grow weary of our tears. He sits with us in the valley and gently leads us, step by step, toward hope again. If you are in a season where faith feels fragile, that’s okay. He is steady even when we are not.
If you have found a resource that has supported you in your journey, I would truly love to hear about it. Sharing what helps is one way we continue building a community where every baby is named, known, and remembered.
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